Did you hear? Pantone has just announced the prediction for colour of the year for 2020 and it’s Classic Blue. A timeless hue that is… well, classic!

“Classic Blue, a solid and dependable blue hue we can always rely on,” said Leatrice Eiseman, Executive Director. “Imbued with a deep resonance, Classic Blue provides an anchoring foundation. A boundless blue evocative of the vast and infinite evening sky. Classic Blue encourages us to look beyond the obvious to expand our thinking, challenging us to think more deeply, increase our perspective and open the flow of communication.” That sounds like a great choice for a wedding colour, doesn’t it?

Wedding Stationery

There are so many ways you could use Classic Blue, into your wedding colours. Let’s start with invitations; ink, paper or ribbon and wax seals are all easy ways to add a pop of blue.


One of the most common ways to feature a colour is to use it for attire. Imagine blue heels peaking out from under your dress as you walk down the aisle, or boogie on the dance floor! How about blue suits, or Bridesmaids/ Groomswomen’s dresses, Flower Girls’ dresses? We really loved this blue suit with blue floral patterned shirt.

Cake, Sweets

Talk to your baker about colourful French macarons, a blue painted cake and cookies (edible paint), or a blue icing drip.


If full on blue tablecloths is more dramatic than you’d like, try a more subtle approach with table runners and napkins. A contrasting menu or blue tinted glassware also have a big impact on your tablescape.


Coloured uplighting will instantly transform the room, with minimal effort and cost. Add small details such as a hint of blue in your signature drink, and throw pillows on some soft seating to carry the look throughout. It’s all about the details, as they say, my lovelies!

Wedding Flowers

While florals are usually an impactful place to add colour, with blue this is super tricky. It’s not a colour that occurs naturally in flowers very often. So, with very few blue flowers to start with, throw in limitations of seasonal blooming and it gets tricky.

We recommend using blooms in other colours from your palette, which just coordinate with the blue, or maybe add a blue ribbon on your bouquet. If you’re dead set on adding touches of blue to your bouquet though, ask your Florist about thistle, certain succulents or silver brunia have a slight blue tinge to them.

After a couple of really bold choices from Pantone over the past few years, we can understand why they might believe a colour like Classic Blue will gain popularity next. It’s certainly not as bold or bright as last year’s bold Living Coral, or the previous bright hue of Ultra Violet. (Not that a challenge ever stopped us!)

We want to know what your thoughts are. Do you love it or was this choice for colour of the year too safe? Will you be incorporating Classic Blue into your wedding colour palette? Let us know in the comments below.


Planner, Designer: Birch & Bunny Weddings and Events
(others are listed by photo)
Laser Cut Invitation Suite: Create Love Design | Photographer: Kristi Sneddon Photography
Macarons: Ollia Tea and Macarons | Photographer: Guenard Photography
Navy Cake, Macarons and Cookies: Cake Bake Shoppe | Photographer: Chic and Grace Photography
Blue Suit with Patterned Shirt: Espy Experience | Photographer: Juan + Angie Photography
Blue Suit with Maroon Tie: Indochino | Photographer: Kristi Sneddon Photography
Blue Heels: Badgley Mischka | Photographer: Jackie Duncan Photography
Blue Dress Photographer: Mylyn Wood
Navy Napkins, Glassware: Great Events Rentals | Photographer: Chic and Grace Photography
Navy Glassware: Modern Luxe Rentals, Cake Topper Macarons: Pretty Sweet Bakeshop
Bouquet with Thistle: Willow Flower Co. | Photographer: Juan + Angie Photography

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You don’t need to care about horse racing to host an amazing Kentucky Derby party. Let me repeat that. You do NOT need to care about horse racing! Our annual Derby soiree is centered around a few key elements, but you’ll notice that the race itself comes in as 4th priority, and we still have a great time!

  1. Mint Juleps
  2. Fancy Duds
  3. Southern Dishes
  4. “The most exciting 2 minutes in sports”
  5. “Run for the Roses” themed decor

Mint Julep Recipe

For a proper mint julep, you’ll need only a few simple ingredients.


  • Fresh Mint (place 8-10 leaves in your palm and slap the mint to release it’s oils).
  • 2 oz Bourbon
  • ¼ oz Simple Syrup (or to taste) then stir
  • Fill your Julep cup with crushed ice
  • Garnish with a sprig of mint, and ENJOY!


  1. Place 8-10 Fresh Mint leaves in your palm and slap the mint to release it’s oils.
  2. Add 2 oz Bourbon.
  3. Add ¼ oz Simple Syrup (or to taste) then stir.
  4. Fill your Julep cup with crushed ice.
  5. Garnish with a sprig of mint, and ENJOY!

I realize that not everyone owns a set of silver/ pewter julep cups, but a collins glass or whatever you’ve got will work just fine. If you do have proper julep cups, the metal will frost up making this drink seem extra refreshing on a hot day.

Fancy Duds

This is your excuse to all dress up in big floppy hats, fascinators, sundresses, bow ties, colourful pants and ascots! Why not let guests cast their vote for Best Hat, Best Dressed Lady, Best Dressed Gent? If your group is really into it, you could even have prizes for Silliest Hat or Best Bow Tie as well.

Just in case your friends are unable to buy/ make their own hat, you could set out a few extra fascinators and sun hats for them to borrow. This taupe hat was a spur of the moment DIY project for me, when my shipment of fascinator making supplies ordered off Etsy did not arrive in time. It’s not perfect, but it did the trick in a pinch!

Southern Dishes

We recommend making some Southern dishes, here are a few that were real crowd pleasers with our guests!
– Hot Brown Sammies
– Pulled Pork
– Benedictine Spread

Derby Pie

Traditionally this one is a standard size pie, but since my guests would be mingling I made a mini tart size version they could grab as they go. Better for holding a Julep in the other hand!


  • 24 Tart shells (or home-made pie crust if you’re a rockstar!)
  • 1 ½ Cups chopped pecans
  • 24 pecans, halved for topping tarts
  • 1 Cup semisweet chocolate chips
  • 1 Cup dark corn syrup
  • ½ Cup granulated sugar
  • ½ Cup brown sugar, firmly packed
  • ¼ Cup bourbon
  • 4 large eggs
  • ¼ Cup unsalted butter, melted
  • 2 tsp cornmeal
  • 2 tsp vanilla extract
  • ½ tsp salt


  1. Preheat the oven to 325° F. Place your tart shells on a cookie sheet lined with tin foil to catch any messy drips.
  2. Sprinkle pecans and chocolate into the bottom of each shell.
  3. In a large sauce pan, combine corn syrup, white sugar, brown sugar, and bourbon. Bring to a boil over medium heat stirring constantly for 3 minutes.
  4. In a medium bowl, whisk eggs, vanilla, butter, cornmeal, and salt. Gradually add the corn syrup mixture, whisking constantly.
  5. Fill each tart shell a bit more than half full, then top with a pecan half.
  6. Bake at 325° for approximately 25 minutes watching for the filling to set and the crusts to become golden brown. Cool before serving.
  7. Tarts can be made in advance and frozen, then thawed in the fridge the morning of the party.
mini Derby Pie and Bourbon Chocolate Chip Cookie

Salted “Derby Pie” Cookies

These elevated chocolate chip cookies made with bourbon were a delicious treat, so I’m sharing the recipe.


  • ¾ Cup cubed, unsalted butter
  • 1 ¼ Cup packed, light brown sugar
  • ¼ Cup granulated sugar
  • 1 large egg
  • 3 TBS good quality bourbon
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • 2 ¼ Cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • ¾ tsp baking powder
  • ½ tsp sea salt, plus more for sprinkling
  • ¾ Cup finely chopped pecans
  • 1 Cup dark chocolate, coarsely chopped


  1. Preheat the oven to 350° F and line two baking sheets with parchment paper.
  2. In a small saucepan, melt the butter over medium-low heat just until melted. Remove from heat and allow to cool for a few minutes.
  3. In a large mixing bowl, cream together the butter, white sugar and brown sugar. Whisk in the egg, bourbon, and vanilla extract. In a separate bowl, combine the flour, baking soda, powder, and salt. Then incorporate the dry ingredients into the butter mixture. Fold in the pecans and chocolate chunks.
  4. Make dough balls about the size of 3 TBS worth and place them 2 inches apart on your baking sheet.
  5. Bake in the preheated oven for about 10 minutes or until the edges are lightly browned. Sprinkle with additional salt, and enjoy!

Red Rose Cupcakes

Dubbed the “Run for the Roses”, the garland is made up of over 450 red roses. As a nod to those, I went with Red Velvet but feel free to sub in your own fave cake flavor.

The Race (AKA “Run for the Roses”)

They don’t call it “The most exciting 2 minutes in sports” for nothing. If you’re not that interested in horse racing don’t worry, you can still host a super fun Kentucky Derby party. We’ve had guests who were having such a great time they missed the actual race, and that’s ok!

Rose themed Kentucky Derby Party Decor

Alright, now I’ve seen plenty of beautiful colour pallets used for Derby parties such as pastels, or blue and white, or green and yellow. These are all so unique and I do love them… but the colours of Derby for me will always be red, black, and white with metallic accents.

Here is a fun horse shoe shaped wreath that I hung on my door to welcome guests and set the party mood as they arrived.

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Today I’m really excited to share with you, my home office makeover.  Being able to work from home is a luxury that is not lost on me.  I feel quite lucky to avoid the commute and besides, “office hours” are tough to enforce when you’re a Wedding Planner, so it’s nice to have my files handy all the time.

When designing the space, I was going for a feminine and sophisticated vibe that would inspire productivity and creativity.  It needed to be a place where I can invite clients over too.  I’m beyond thrilled with how it has turned out, let’s take a look.

Certified Wedding Planner
Destination Wedding Planner

My certificate from Mount Royal University for Wedding and Event Planning displays my full name but I thought I’d share photos of these two at least.

I picked up this white shelving unit because it’s exactly what I was looking for. Binders for client files, processes and business docs are all at my finger tips, but I also need to be able to store ugly things like toner cartridges and office supplies out of sight.

The textured, fluffy dots on these curtains were calling my name, and I got them at Winners for a killer deal.

Pretty champagne gold day planners from previous years are nice to hold on to.   I’m pretty particular about the page format of my day planners, so that’s my priority.  If possible though, I try to find a champagne gold one to match my colour scheme.

Speaking of champagne gold, I’m saving a couple gold bottles of prosecco for a special occasion. For my bday recently, a good friend gave me that bottle of Gigglewater and “Let’s Get Fizzical”. It’s a prosecco cocktail recipe book I’m LIVING for these, obvi!… Oh, and a Wedding Planner’s bff; Emily Post.

This little guy is actually a piggy bank, but I don’t use him for that, he just made me smile.

Office Organization

I’ve got to have my dual monitors for all the floor plans and large spreadsheets that I work with. Yup, there’s my external hard-drive too. Planners are big on risk management- we always have a plan B, and a plan C.

For all the mood boards, floor plans and timelines that need printing, I’ve got to have a quality printer. This one’s got an app for easy wireless printing from my cell phone. If you’re interested, I reviewed it here.

Wedding planner's home office decor

… and lastly, here is where I keep my wedding day Emergency Kit, which I’ll let you have a peak inside of next time.

Well, that’s the grand tour.  I love how it turned out bright, cheery so I feel motivated and inspired in here.  I hope you’re as smitten with it as I am!  Maybe you’re ready to tackle your own home office makeover now?

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Deciding if changing your name is even the right option for you? We’ve got you covered for making the decision and everything you need to know to go about it.

Your name is part of your identity, so it can be tough to decide whether or not to change it. It’s a personal choice, but there are so many factors that come in to play such as cultural, practical, traditional, convenience, emotional factors. It can be confusing and daunting, so we’re here to break it down for you.

Keeping Your Maiden Name

Many Brides choose to keep their maiden name, a name after all is part of one’s identity.  This option is especially popular for women who have established their career already under that name.  For example, if a Scientist has published under her maiden name there are ways to be properly credited with her married name, but some find it is simpler to just not change their name at all.


I love this option personally but my name is already pretty long as it is. I have two middle names plus my Maiden Name wasn’t short and neither is my hubby’s last name. If this option seems right for you though, I think it’s the best of both worlds.

Changing Your Name

Some couples decide on this route to identify themselves to the world as one family unit. Some people are surprised to find out that taking on a Married Name is a different (and much easier) process than a regular name change. There are many factors, and as I said before it is a very personal decision that will differ for your own unique situation. If you have decided to take your spouse’s name, no matter the reason, here is a list to help make it easier.

Check List

Once you have your marriage certificate (not the same as your marriage license) you can use that to make the other changes.

Step 1

  • Driver’s Licence
  • Health Care Card
  • Canada Revenue Agency
  • SIN

Step 2

  • Banking
  • Credit Cards
  • Student Loan
  • Vehicle Registration
  • Insurance
  • Passport
  • Your Employer
  • Will
  • Stocks

Step 3

  • Utility Companies
  • Phone, Cable, Internet Provider
  • Memberships
  • Social Media Profiles
  • New Email Account
  • Friends and family

Changing your name is not so overwhelming when you break it down, right?

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Initial Meeting Coffee

What will we talk about?

Our initial meeting is a great opportunity for us to get to know each other. You will get a peak at my portfolio, learn what the process looks like as a client, and which services would be the best fit for you. I’ll learn what you envision for your wedding as far as style, feel, if you have any concerns about your day, what your needs are, what you will invest in your wedding and how we can make your wedding AMAZING!

Is there a fee for the Initial Meeting?

Nope, this is a complimentary, no obligation, informal meeting.

Where do we meet?

Usually our Initial Meeting will take place at a central location such as a
coffee shop or a fro-yo joint.  Since our clients come from all over and have
busy schedules, this can also be done via video call!

Who should attend?

I would love to meet with both of you, to give you both the chance to get to
know me and vise- versa.

Can I ask your advice on budget, venue and vendor recommendations in this Initial Meeting?

All of that is the fun stuff we get to do once you’re a signed member of the
Birch & Bunny Weddings family!  This meeting is an opportunity for us to get to know one another, for you to learn about my services, for me to learn about your wedding vision and for us to decide if we are a good fit for each other.  If you are interested in this advice BEFORE booking one of our packages though, please contact us for a consultation.

Will we be pressured into making a decision on the spot?

Absolutely not.  I encourage you to go home and sleep on it.  Afterwards, if you wish I will prepare a custom quote for you.  Your date will be temporarily held for 2 weeks following the meeting, we will follow up if we haven’t heard from you.  We would be honored to be a part of your wedding, but if you decide otherwise that’s okay too- we’d appreciate if you let us know so that we can release your wedding date for other couples.  We want to give you the opportunity to think about it, feel comfortable and be sure about your decision to move ahead!

Are you ready to meet?  Let’s chat and set up a time to grab coffee (or boba tea or fro-yo or cocktails if you prefer!)

Photo Credit: Monogram Coffee

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The colour trend guru’s at Pantone are predicting that the most popular colour of 2019 will be Living Coral.

Pantone Colour Trends

It’s said to have a playful energy, with warmth and it’s quite a mellow and cheerful hue.

“Just as coral reefs are a source of sustenance and shelter to sea life, vibrant yet mellow Living Coral embraces us with warmth and nourishment to provide comfort and buoyancy in our continually shifting environment.”

Although this tablescape photo doesn’t really reflect how subtle the blue was, it’s still an interesting example so I’m sharing it. I used coral and shades of tangerine and peach with cookies for place cards. Those were a fun detail!

Pantone Colour Peach Wedding
Pantone Colour 2019

It’s certainly a departure from 2018’s regal Ultra Violet Pantone Colour.  Check out how much fun we had playing with that dramatic and vibrant colour!

What are your thoughts?  We want to hear!  How would you use this colour in your own wedding?


Planning and Design: Birch & Bunny Weddings and Events
Venue: Hyatt, Calgary, Alberta
Tablescape Rentals: Modern Luxe Rentals
Tablescape Menu: Brinley Wilder Design
Tablescape Cookie Place Cards: Cake Bake Shoppe
Floral Photo: JM Photography
Florist: Flowers by Janie
Colour Trends Forecasting: Pantone

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Looking for a fun activity for you and your crew to do together leading up to the big day?!  I’m checking out your options to help you choose.  It’s a tough job, but somebody has to do it.  😉

Girls’ Night of arranging beautiful blooms, while toasting bubbly and nibbling on pretty hand-painted cookies, and donuts?  You can’t go wrong!

bridal shower idea

Janie started by teaching us the names of all of the beautiful flowers we will be adding to our peony arrangements, and giving us some guidelines on how to create our beautiful arrangements, here we are listening intently. 
(Side Note: I just realized that my #OOTD was a floral top, PLUS my jacket with floral embroidery- I wonder what was on my mind that day…)
flower arranging workshop
Time to break for treats and toast some bubbles!  After all, what would a peonies and prosecco night be without it?
wedding cookies
pretty donuts

There we have it!  My lovely peony arrangement which really tszuj’d up my kitchen table.  (Yes, apparently that’s how you spell jeuge it up, who knew). 

Wedding Planner Headshot
fresh flowers

Peonies and Prosecco Event Credits

Florist and Host: Flowers by Janie
Treats: Pretty Sweet
Photographer: Tara Whittaker Photography
Venue: Pearl & Dot Bridal Boutique

My hubster and I are really loving the challenge of choosing anniversary gifts by year!  You can fall back on the list if you’re stuck but it can also be fun to challenge yourselves to get creative with it!  Although we have only been married for a few years, we took our sweet time getting here and have celebrated 11 anniversaries together.  We like to make our anniversary gifts more meaningful, and save things like clothing and household items for Christmas and birthdays.

Here are the traditional gifts by year, with a modern twist.

1 Year – Paper  Check out our post of 1st Anniversary Gift Ideas!
2 Years – Cotton  Looking for thoughtful 2nd Anniversary Gifts?  We’ve got ideas!
3 Years – Leather
4 Years – Fruit/ Flowers  Our friends at Amborella are ready to recreate your wedding flowers like they did for our Groom to give his Bride-to-be on Valentines’ day.  (He’s a keeper!)  This was their wedding.
5 Years – Wood
6 Years – Iron
7 Years – Wool/ Copper
8 Years – Pottery/ Bronze  Can’t wait for this one, I am SO signing us up for a clay pottery spinning class!  Not just a keepsake, we’re also out here making memories.
9 Years – Willow/ Pottery
10 Years – Diamond Jewelry  How lovely would it be to gift her with a stackable ring to add to her finger.  A daily reminder of how your love for her has grown over the years.   If your budget allows, how about upgrading the diamond in her ring?  Sometimes the original diamond is made into a necklace or stud earrings so that she can continue to wear that along with the new bling in her ring!

Traditionally the 10 year anniversary meant Tin/ Aluminum, but we think a decade of marriage is much more deserving of the modern adaptation. What do you think?

Curious about more anniversary gifts by year?  Here are many more to look forward to.

15 Years – Crystal
20 Years – China
25 Years – Silver
30 Year – Pearls
35 Years – Coral
40 Years – Ruby
45 Years – Saphire
50 Years – Gold
60 Years – Diamond

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WPIC certified

Hello darlings! I just got a fabulous new wireless All-in-One Printer and I wanted to share my thoughts with you with a review. I know that most of you are Brides-to-be, but this review is for small business owners like myself. I’m not getting paid to say this, I just wanted to put my honest opinions out there. So, if you’re here for the wedding tips and inspo, just scroll on by to the next post! 😉

Let’s dive right in, if you’re not a small business owner then this printer is way overkill. It’s bulky, heavy and you wouldn’t need the extreme workload of this one. So if you’re not here for an All-in-One Printer Review then you can go check out my other blog posts about romance and pretty florals!

Showcasing white printer that fits nicely with the style of Wedding Planner's home office decor aesthetic.

For all the entrepreneurs and #bossbabes who stuck around to keep reading, let me get right to it.  This is the Canon ImageCLASS MF624CW.

I chose this one because I needed All-in-One printer, scanner, copier and I also really wanted wireless capability.  That’s right, I can check emails on my phone and hit print from my kitchen, bedroom, garage, absolutely anywhere in my house.  It’s sooooo handy. 

It’s decent looking too, it fits in with my home office decor aesthetic, which was a bonus.  After all, this is where I meet with Brides and Grooms-to-be, so it doesn’t hurt that it’s nice looking.

Close up of printer

The main paper tray is on the bottom at the front, and above that is a slot for printing labels.

It’s got an easy to use touch screen and simple keypad.

Touch screen and buttons.

Now I’ll show you how to replace the toner cartridges, because it wasn’t in the back where I expected it to be. The toner panel is actually in the front, so you pull down the panel and it opens like this.

Toner replacement panel.

Then you squeeze the blue button to pull out the black tray.

Toner replacement release.

The tray pulls out to reveal slots for all of your different colours of toner cartridges.

Toner cartridges.

Wireless Printing

Here is a cell phone screen shot of the wireless printing app.  It’s the only way to print wirelessly, so it would have been nice to put this info in the instructions… but it’s awesome and super simple to use. 

Wireless printing App for your cell phone.

Overall, I give the Canon ImageCLASS 4 stars. It’s huge, and super heavy or I might have given it a perfect score.

Well darlings, I hope this helps you decide if this beautiful beast is the printer for you!

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The most meaningful part of your wedding is your ceremony, and the very best way to personalize it (after writing your own vows) is choosing ceremony readings. They may already hold personal meaning to the two of you, or that may grow over time and likely represent your personal style as a couple.

Feel free to look for inspiration in unexpected places. A movie quote, song lyric, short poem, excerpt from a favorite novel, a quote or a childhood book are all great sources for personalizing your ceremony readings. Here are a few that might spark your interest!

Let’s start our list of ceremony readings with one that is calligraphed on a handmade paper banner that hangs in Birch & Bunny Weddings HQ (my home office).

I Carry Your Heart With Me
by E. E. Cummings

I carry your heart with me I carry it in
my heart) I am never without it(anywhere
I go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)
I fear
no fate(for you are my fate, my sweet) I want
no world(for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

To Be One With Each Other
by George Eliot

What greater thing is there for two human souls
than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen
each other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow,
to share with each other in all gladness,
to be one with each other in the
silent unspoken memories?

An Excerpt from the Novel ‘Contact’
by Carl Sagan

For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love.

Love Sonnet 17
by Pablo Neruda

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way
than this: where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.

Wild Awake
by Hilary T. Smith

People are like cities: We all have alleys and gardens and secret rooftops and places where daisies sprout between the sidewalk cracks, but most of the time all we let each other see is a postcard glimpse of a skyline or a polished square. Love lets you find those hidden places in another person, even the ones they didn’t know were there, even the ones they wouldn’t have thought to call beautiful themselves.

To Love is Not to Possess
by James Kavanaugh

To love is not to possess,
To own or imprison
Nor to lose one’s self in another.
Love is to join and separate,
To walk alone and together,
To find a laughing freedom
That lonely isolation does not permit.
It is finally to be able
To be who we really are
No longer clinging in childish dependency
Nor docilely living separate lives in silence,
It is to be perfectly one’s self
And perfectly joined in permanent commitment
To another–and to one’s inner self.
Love only endures when it moves like waves,
Receding and returning gently or passionately,
Or moving lovingly like the tide
In the moon’s own predictable harmony
Because finally, despite a child’s scars
Or an adult’s deepest wounds,
They are openly free to be
Who they really are–and always secretly were,
In the very core of their being
Where true and lasting love can alone abide.

Somewhere I Have Never Traveled, Gladly Beyond
by E. E. Cummings

somewhere I have never traveled, gladly beyond
any experience, your eyes have their silence:
in your most frail gesture are things which enclose me,
or which I cannot touch because they are too near

your slightest look easily will unclose me
though I have closed myself as fingers,
you open always petal by petal myself as Spring opens
(touching skillfully, mysteriously) her first rose

or if your wish be to close me, I and
my life will shut very beautifully, suddenly,
as when the heart of this flower imagines
the snow carefully everywhere descending;

nothing which we are to perceive in this world equals
the power of your intense fragility: whose texture
compels me with the colour of its countries,
rendering death and forever with each breathing

(I do not know what it is about you that closes
and opens; only something in me understands
the voice of your eyes is deeper than all roses)
nobody, not even the rain, has such small hands

Coming Home
By Mary Oliver

“When we are driving in the dark,
on the long road to Provincetown,
when we are weary,
when the buildings and the scrub pines lose their familiar look,
I imagine us rising from the speeding car.
I imagine us seeing everything from another place—
the top of one of the pale dunes, or the deep and nameless
fields of the sea.
And what we see is a world that cannot cherish us,
but which we cherish.
And what we see is our life moving like that
along the dark edges of everything,
headlights sweeping the blackness,
believing in a thousand fragile and unprovable things.
Looking out for sorrow,
slowing down for happiness,
making all the right turns
right down to the thumping barriers to the sea,
the swirling waves,
the narrow streets, the houses,
the past, the future,
the doorway that belongs
to you and me.

I hope you’re inspired to look to unexpected sources when choosing your ceremony readings. You never know where you’ll find a real gem.